Well, What Are You Looking For?

I think one of life's greatest mysteries are the connections that we create with other people, voluntarily or involuntarily. 

One of my favorite things about being human is having the capability to feel, and to manifest these emotions in our actions and our need for other people, or our need to fill the void. 

There is so much out there that we do not know. Why are we living these lives trying to fulfill a purpose that we don't yet understand It's almost insane to even attempt to do so. But that's the thing. Life is just fucking crazy. 

I think more people should definitely try and get out of their box once in a while. Too many individuals don't try and make something mental, they are afraid of the self exploration, they fear some of the greatest pleasures in life and wish to continue living in their own cycle. I think that is what will change with the coming generations. Thank to the technology in the world, there is so much knowledge right at our fingertips, and eventually that will lead to either our greatest success or our biggest demise. 

We have been given life. We exist. We don't know what's going to happen, or how it's going to happen, or if anything will happen at all, but what we can do is make every step that we take right now, worth something to us individually. 

So what do I do? What do you do? 

Humans, by nature I think are creatures of communication. We need others in order to survive, but we need to be in-control and independent in our lives first. If you're looking for something to fill the void, or if there is something that you feel like you're missing, or if the search for fulfillment haunts your every waking hour, then maybe theres something wrong and you should do some digging.

Some psychologist from an article I read once, said, "People need three basic skills to be happy: they need to feel independent, competent, and able to form and maintain relationships with others." But how do we get to these basic skills in the first place? 

I'm still trying to figure it out myself, but you know, I can give you my insight on the situation. 

Get Educated
I think this is the most important part of reaching optimum level of life satisfaction. There is so much information in the world, there is so much that has been offered, that can be offered, it's insane how much you can learn, and this knowledge will open up so many doors. It doesn't matter what you learn about, learn about everything, but it is important that you keep in mind the fact that, the more you know, the more you don't know. Learn about how the actions you make affect others, learn how to not be upset about the actions that you make, learn about yourself, learn about what will help you. You want to be independent? You don't know why your SO is upset with you? Why do people think you're weird? Why haven't you done anything meaningful with your life? Well, I can promise you, the more you search, the more you will discover, and along the way something will speak to you. I get it, it's hard. Hence the term, "ignorance is bliss" If you don't know anything, you don't have to do anything, you don't have to risk getting hurt, or making a difference, or anything of the sort, but why would you wan't to subject the only existence that you know to a monotonous routine full of unanswered questions?

Test Yourself
Now that you have all of this knowledge you've accumulated what are you gonna do?
Let's say you're in this deep dark hole. You're absolutely fucking miserable, it's like the whole world is against you and there is nothing that you feel like you can do to make a difference. Ok. So that's you. But what if I told you, you can do whatever you want to do.
Answer: apply it
Disclaimer; I doubt it'll be easy. You're trying to unlearn old habits and apply new ones because it is one thing to know everything about something, vs going out and actually doing it. Initially, it will be a tedious process, unless you're superhuman, you won't get it right the first time, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Anyone who has played sports, or an instrument, or math can tell you that practice makes perfect and that application is no different to your other parts of life. You will become resilient and when you find one day you've managed to do what you've been preparing yourself to do, it will be such a rewarding moment, that you'll want to cling to it and do it all over again. 

Find the Right Support
This is where your foundation for educating yourself will come in handy. That is the joy of living. So now you've mustered up the strength to find some shit out for yourself, now you're educated, you've made a change, you want to continue your growth since the ball rolling. So you need to make sure that you can keep it rolling, even when you feel like falling all over again. Now this is important: friends are important. I'm not just talking any friends, good, really fucking good, understands you to a T, doesn't undermine you, and only wants the best for you, type of friend are the only thing that is going to help you get out of this hole. These friends are going to help you push the ball when you feel like giving up, but ONLY once you've proven that you can push the ball in the first place your friends are there to tell you that you can keep going, will give you the validation that you need to continue.